Unlike the out-of-body experiences and levitation , lasting longer in the bedroom doesn’t have to be a tantric myth. In fact, the art of prolonged performance has been well documented! So if you’re looking to put in the practise, Fleshlight’s Stamina Training Unit can help. Read on for the long and short of it.
Firstly, performance anxiety can stem from unrealistic expectations, so let’s set some sensible goals.
Exactly how long you should aim to last depends on your needs and the needs of your partner, but a Glamour survey of 1000 women determined that 25% need only spend 5-9 minutes per sexual encounter, while 28% feel that 10-14 minutes is a more accurate reflection of their sex life. Other studies place the average between 7-13 minutes for the ideal intercourse. With this in mind, aiming to last 15 minutes is a good starting point.
Secondly, the wisdom we’re about to impart is best practised with the Stamina Training Unit (STU) in hand. It’s a Fleshlight created to replicate the intense sensations of intercourse, made from our soft, non-vibrating Superskin™ sleeve. You can use it to practise your technique, develop sexual stamina, improve performance and heighten your orgasms.
Tantric Art #1: Brinkmanship
If you’re to learn only one skill with the Stamina Training Unit, this is the one. Because if you can bring yourself to the brink of ejaculation and remain in control, you can attain the status of tantric master (not really, but your confidence will skyrocket)!
The trick is to ‘cool down’ when you feel yourself getting close. This can be done one of several ways: by switching to a slower rhythm, limiting the depth to pleasurable tease, or coming to a complete stop inside her (while continuing to stimulate her clitoris with your fingers). Practice all of these methods with your STU, and listen to your body so you’ll never be caught off-guard.
Tantric art #2: the Million Dollar Spot
According to legend, a Tantric Master named Lu the Immortal discovered a secret place that could be pressed to prevent ejaculation. Today, this spot is also known as the ‘grundle’ or the ‘taint’ and it’s the stretch of skin between the scrotum and the anus. By applying pressure to it, you can prevent your load shooting up the vas-deferens. When you feel your perineum contract, keep pressing until the contractions stop. It’ll feel like an orgasm without the ejaculation.
Tantric Art #3: Wu Hisen’s 81
Recommended by the legendary master Wu Hisen, this practice requires patience and focus. Work on your breathing as you count through the cycles:
- 3 shallow strokes followed by one deep stroke for 81 cycles.
- 5 shallow strokes followed by one deep stroke for 81 cycles.
- 9 shallow strokes followed by one deep stroke for 81 cycles.
Tantic Art #4: Be good to yourself
While this is not strictly a tantric art, it’s important not to let your subconscious mind shatter your confidence.
If you’re dissatisfied with your performance, don’t get hung up on it. Chances are, your lover cares a lot less than you do! Most women know that there’s more than one way to be pleasured, and if you’re putting in the effort, you’ve got nothing to worry about.
Note: the advice in this blog is general in nature and should not be taken as medical advice. If you have ongoing erectile dysfunction, have it investigated by a doctor.